You have long been friend with someone. If they do something that you don’t like , should you still be friends with him or her?
Friends are those who would like to unconditionally offer us both physical and emotional support. For this reason, friends for years are as precious as jewels in our life that deserve our cherishing. Even though my friends, especially those old ones, may sometimes do something that I dislike, I would definitely continue our friendship without hesitation.
First and foremost, a long-lasting friendship usually based on common interests and values will not and should not be disrupted by trivial things. As a proverb goes in China, people having shared hobbies and values always form a solid circle of friends. That denotes friends staying by my side are congenial with me who enjoy what I am fond of, who focus on what I am dedicated to and who stick to what I persist in. Through years of communicating and interacting, our friendship is successfully built and well-maintained. Hence, it is irrational and unreasonable for temporary conflicts to tear us apart. Speaking of my younger female cousin, the most intimate friend that I have, she is always leaving important things behind when we hang out, the most annoying thing for me that never fail to stir a quarrel. Rather than becoming estranged from her, I gradually regard this habit of hers as a natural thing due to the awareness of the deep love for her deriving from years of being accompanied and mutual support. Besides, from the angle of individual development, being tolerant of our friends contributes to a better adaptability to the modern society with complex interpersonal relationship. To put it more clearly, modern society is a big network of relationships. On most occasions, handling practical problems related to daily work equals to relating with others. Therefore, it should not be surprising that those who are proficient in effective communication manage the skill of how to collaborate well with others. And an objectively treatment and pleased embracing of the things done by our friends which we do not like symbolizes the gaining of the knowledge of how to relate well with others. Again I would like to take myself as an example. By tolerating my younger female cousin’s drawbacks, I, after stepping into the work field, make it to get rid of negative state of mind when it comes to the encounter with carelessness of my colleagues or customers. As a result, they are all willing to cooperate with me when assignment comes.
To put it in a nutshell, it is more favorable for me to maintain the friendship with those who may behave improperly sometimes but join my life for years.